Values and Identity
Using The BOUNCE Approach®
What’s happening
- Our values shape how we see ourselves, interact with the world, and make decisions.
- For young people, especially those experiencing dysregulation or negative self-talk, values are closely linked to identity and a sense of security.
- When situations clash with values, it can create frustration or discomfort. Living in alignment with values, however, brings clarity, purpose, and authenticity.
- Energy battery impact: acting against one’s values can be draining, while living in line with values feels grounding and restorative.
The BOUNCE Approach®
🖤 B — Body and Nervous System (Inside Tool)
- Begin with calm body states (deep breaths, grounding) before reflecting on values.
- Notice body signals when values feel supported versus when they’re challenged.
❤️ O — Openness to Connection and Attachment (In-Between Tool)
- Explore values in conversation or shared activities, building safety and trust.
- Model curiosity about your own values to show openness and mutual respect.
🧡 U — Understanding Sensory Differences (Outside Tool)
- Acknowledge that values may link to sensory preferences (e.g., craving calm vs. loving stimulation).
- Create spaces where children can reflect without sensory overload.
💚 N — Navigating Emotions (Inside Tool)
- Use reflective questions: “What made you feel proud?” or “What felt unfair?”
- Help children link strong emotions to underlying values (e.g., anger may signal injustice).
💙 C — Connection to Self and Others (In-Between Tool)
- Explore how values shape friendships, family roles, and community involvement.
- Encourage dialogue: “How can we respect each other’s values even if they’re different?”
💜 E — Esteem and Identity (Inside Tool)
- Support children to name and affirm their top 5 values.
- Create a personal value statement as a reminder of what matters most.
Adult Focus:
- Values exploration isn’t about imposing “right answers” — it’s about helping children connect to their own inner compass.
- Reflective activities build direction, confidence, and self-trust.
- Supporting children to live in line with their values strengthens resilience and regulation.
Activity Idea: Exploring Core Values
- Set the Scene: Create a quiet, safe space. Begin with breathing or grounding.
- Review Values List: Read through values one by one. Highlight ones that resonate.
- Narrow It Down: Select top 10, then refine to top 5.
- Reflect on Key Moments: Recall times of pride or joy — which values were present?
- Ask Questions: “What happens when this value isn’t respected?”
- Create a Value Statement: e.g., “I value compassion, which means I try to notice when others need support.”
- Action Plan: Choose 1–2 values to focus on daily life.
Next Steps
- Explore further learning:
- IFS / Parts Approach — helping children externalise inner voices and beliefs.
- Play-Doh Feelings — tactile ways to explore emotions linked to beliefs.
- Drawing Feelings — using colour and art to express and reframe negative thoughts.
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