The Restorative Approach to Conflict resource has helped me identify my own conflict style which kept me safe, but not learning or growing.

I would often succumb to other people’s wishes because of not being able to find my own voice.

It has also made me aware of what kind of people I seem to attract into my life due to familiarity and what the outcome of that collaboration tends to be. I am also much quicker now at identifying the conflict style of the person that I am in exchange with and what we are co-creating together.

Knowing which position I am coming from and which position the other person is coming from helps me be more aware about the direction that the interaction is going and what are my choices to help it move in the direction of a more collaborative exchange.

Most of all I needed to learn what my needs were and find my voice to be able to express them clearly, calmly, and with more confidence. I am recognizing now that my needs matter as much as the person who I am in exchange with.

I also recognize that I have a choice now over how I express those needs. I am embracing a sense of playfulness to be able to expand my repertoire of expressing those needs in the future.

Thank you, Tracy for creating the resource and creating a positive impact in my life.

Tracy has created a super safe space where it’s OK to explore, learn and share challenges that having an amazing neurodiverse child might bring.  There are not many of these spaces out there, and mainly one feels separate from or isolated as one’s beloved has a story, different from one that society expects.  She softens the tough edges and offers and demonstrates practical suggestions and tools to try out with your young person.  My daughter is not yet in a better place but I know I can ask Tracy for support whilst we get to a better place.  Many thanks Tracy & CTS.

Over the past few years I have attended training sessions and coffee and chats in person and on Zoom led by Tracy.  These have been invaluable.  Tracy shares her vast knowledge in an accessible way.  She helps me to know that I am not alone in my struggles, and she provides training to help ourselves and our neuro divergent children.  The wealth of resources on her website is outstanding.  And new resources continue to appear!  I often recommend Child Therapy Services to other parents because I find it so useful.  She deserves a medal for the work she is doing.

So helpful to talk through my concerns with someone so knowledgeable and see some positive ways forward. Thank you