Theory of Mind

Using The BOUNCE Approach®

What’s happening

• Theory of Mind (ToM) is the ability to understand that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and perspectives — and that these may be different from our own.
• Many children develop this gradually, but some neurodivergent children may need more time, support, or different approaches.
• This doesn’t mean something is “wrong” — it’s simply a different way of experiencing the world.
• Energy battery impact: Without support, social situations can feel confusing or draining, leading to withdrawal, overwhelm, or conflict.

The BOUNCE Approach®

🖤 B — Body and Nervous System (Inside Tool)

• Support regulation first so children feel safe enough to think about perspectives.
• Use sensory or movement breaks before and during social practice.

❤️ O — Openness to Connection and Attachment (In-Between Tool)

• Approach ToM work through curiosity and play, not correction.
• Emphasise double empathy: connection goes both ways — adults and peers adapt too.

🧡 U — Understanding Sensory Differences (Outside Tool)

• Recognise that sensory overwhelm can block perspective-taking.
• Adapt environments to reduce stressors so children can focus on social understanding.

💚 N — Navigating Emotions (Inside Tool)

• Link ToM activities to emotional awareness (“When you feel X, someone else might feel Y”).
• Use scripts, visuals, or story-based play to explore emotions safely.

💙 C — Connection to Self and Others (In-Between Tool)

• Practise role-play, comic strips, or shared stories to explore different viewpoints.
• Celebrate effort in perspective-taking, not just accuracy.

💜 E — Esteem and Identity (Inside Tool)

• Affirm that having a different perspective style is valid.
• Highlight strengths such as honesty, clarity, or unique ways of interpreting situations.

Adult Focus:

• ToM support isn’t about forcing children to “fit in” — it’s about helping them feel safe, confident, and respected.
• Teach peers and adults to adapt communication, not just the child.
• Focus on building connection, not conformity.

Next Steps

• Explore further learning:
  • Theory of Mind intervention pack — visual stories, scripts, and real-life activities.
  • Comic Strip Conversations — tools for exploring perspectives through drawings.
  • Solution Circles — collaborative problem-solving that values every viewpoint.
  • LEGO-based Therapy — structured play to support social communication.
• Join the Learning Portal: Access 80+ trainings, printable resources, and interventions that help children build social understanding while staying safe, respected, and confident in who they are. Click here to learn more

👉 Supporting Theory of Mind isn’t about changing children — it’s about creating spaces where every perspective is valued.